There's nothing more crushing than having a friend with a broken heart. I, for one, feel helpless. I want to run to their side and hug them until it hurts on one hand. On the other hand, I know people cope with things differently and often crave personal space. And broken hearts come in many forms: a break up, a divorce or god forbid, a death.
This week I had a dear friend text me urgently asking me for a call back. I was at a client photo shoot and I knew something was wrong. I felt trapped. When I called her back, she could barely get the words out. Hysterical and knee deep in her first panic attack as she packed her things preparing to move out of her long-term relationship and brand new condo. It was crushing. One of the worst calls I've received in a long time.
What do you do? How do you help someone when life is pulling you in different directions between your work and family obligations? Here's a few small actions that can illustrate how much you care when your beloved friends are faced with heartbreak...
- Stop what you're doing and listen.
- Go to them. Drop what you are doing and meet them. Being alone is often the worst part of their day.
- Call them, text them, call them some more.
- Avoid alcohol which often amplifies emotions.
- Sleepover! There's nothing better than the comfort of a friend sharing a bed when you're at your worst. Staycations fall into this category, too.
- Standing dates. Book a weekly cooking class, coffee clutch, movie or hip hop class so that your friend has something to look forward to and lift their spirits.
- Just hug them. Hug them as much as they need it...they're free.
- Mail a card just because.
- Build a support group...rally your friends to commit to weekly check-ins, too. With any luck your friend will have almost an entire week of activities booked allowing them very little down time.
- If your gut tells you this is bigger than you, seek help. Call the Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1 (800) 273-8255.
Thank you for all the positive feedback and comments related to last week's series. I loved hearing from you! xo
Today I do not feel like I want to post about fashion. Today is one of those Truth Tuesday posts. I've been reflecting quite a bit about all the change 2017 has brought. Some of it has been pretty fabulous while others have been quite stressful. With only two months to go, I can safely say that 2017 was not one of my favorite years and the word on the street is that many people feel the same. 2017 was a year of change.
And 2018...if you're listening...you better bring it!
I've saved this photo for a year. Can you believe it? One of my very talented friends who happens to shoot on the regular for my company shot it when I wasn't paying attention...on a Halloween shoot, natch.
It's always fun to look back on the last 30 days and review life as we know it. Fall is such a busy time of year. It usually leaves me breathless but in the best way. It's been so long since I've done one of these that I felt today appropriate. I've had a bit of a black cloud over my head as of late but TODAY the sun is shining and it's Friday!
Like every day, you can always come to 101 things I love to support your shopping habit. Old habits die hard. <wink, wink> I will say this though...I will always find you a good deal and I am well researched. That's a promise! I am sure my husband is gritting his teeth reading this.
I posted a blog last week on shopping. It wasn't ground breaking and I've shared this type of content many-a-time before. Once in awhile a reader will comment on a particular item they, too are fawning over. It's just fun, superfluous content. The interesting thing about this post is that it really rubbed one reader the wrong way. I mentioned it extensively on my IG stories but in case you missed it...here's what my friend, "Laney" had to say...
Hi! Happy Friday! Although somewhat risky, I thought we'd do a little exercise today! For the first time in eight years I want to open up the floor and answer all of your burning questions. I've never done this before but I thought it could be a fun way to connect as a community and I've seen so many influencers do the same. It really changed my perspective on the individual behind the brand. So...what do you think?
Sometimes I wish Lisa had permanent residency in my home. On those challenging days when nothing seems to be going right, I would take solace in the fact that Lisa would have a mean cocktail waiting for me as soon as the clock turned happy hour. This girl knows how to whip up a strong drink and not just one...but an entire collection of craft cocktails!
I just returned from another Mexican adventure. Let me start with the simple fact that Mexico is always a good idea. Always. Two back to back trips further cemented my love for this country. That said, with any travel comes tiny moments of clarity. Some are welcome and some are just a drag to face. So let's start with the good stuff...
If you want the cut and dry of why the tech community loves Katy Lynch, see answer #10. Actually, that's why I love her, too.
I met Katy a little over a year ago and I was instantly inspired by her genuine support for my agency and her bubbly demeanor.
Everyday was a surprise in Guadalajara. And I mean that in every sense of the word. We'd wake up to beautiful breakfasts and come home to thoughtful gifts. It was unreal. Day 2 was just what the doctor ordered. Our itinerary included breakfast at Café Barra Café followed by a short trek to the landmark spa and boutique hotel, Hacienda El Carmen.