Girl cliques. They're a part of every girl's story. Either you were in a fierce one and served on the Queen Bee's royal court or you were cast among the civilians and not even offered a second glance. I've been there time and time again. And, I'm 37! I've seen more cliques than I care to admit...and very rarely was I ever in the "it-girl crowd". It's not a pity party I'm seeking though...I've learned a lot over the years and now I have two little girls. I can feel myself gearing up for middle school already!
There's two types of leaders in this world. There are the positive, influential and fun ones to be around OR there are the girls that act as manipulative leaders and often demean others. Clearly the latter is totally unappealing as a grown woman but what do we tell the younger generation? What advice do we give them?
I was chatting with a girlfriend last night in the car about cliques around town and yes, we were giggling a little bit but the bigger picture is that cliques really exist at any age. And, it's how you cope with them that define your character and make you the type of human being that others admire and want to be around.
With that said, here are my quick tips for surviving a girl clique:
- Kill 'em with kindness. Just because "you can't sit with them" doesn't mean you can't make their heads spin with a warm embrace and a hello. They'll be so confused!
- Reach out to the wall flowers. Often times these women have the potential to be life-long friends...they just need to be given the opportunity. Walk over and introduce yourself.
- Do not judge. You never know someone else's struggle. Reserve your opinion.
- Ask for her number. That's right...get her digits. If you see someone you like, arrange a coffee and make the effort.
- Walk away. If certain social occasions are making you feel "not worthy," walk away and find a group of more like-minded women.
No matter what - always trust your gut. If it smells like a clique, acts like a clique and talks like a clique...it's a CLIQUE. Depending on what side of the fence you're on, it can be fun for awhile and certainly have its perks. Ultimately it's a lot of work. Friendship should be easy and women should empower each other.
We shouldn't be competing with each other; we should be supporting and encouraging the many reasons that make us unique, talents and all! Happy Friday!
Welcome to my newly rebranded entrepreneurial series. You may remember Fearless Friday from the past but this is the 2018 reimagined version. I brought it back for many reasons but the primary reason was because of YOU. You guys loved this series! I took a break because I recall it being a lot of work to conduct interviews and beyond. So, instead, I took my own advice and worked smarter, not harder.
Let me start by saying that I am not a physician. Not even close. But I can say that for almost 37 years I struggled with food, digestion and the feeling it left me. I have a great relationship with food. I love it and I love to try new things BUT gluten and I were never meant to be friends and that epiphany hit roughly two years ago when I grew tired of the bloat, the gas, the bathroom issues and the overall appearance of looking like I was in my second trimester 24/7.
2017 was a difficult year for many people that I genuinely love and care about. In fact, it felt like the world was somewhat turned on its head with everything ranging from natural disasters to horrible tragedies to the ugly truth behind "me, too" in the media. Hard to watch, hard to listen to and hard to put one foot in front of the other when you're left wondering what you can do to help. What I did love about this year is that we all spoke up. It's a positive change and yes, the topics were taboo but so what? Let's get it all out on the table, I say!
I feel like life is moving at the speed of sound and with it...my blog has been sitting in the corner weeping for more frequency. I am TRYING but man, this time of year is intensely busy. I decided to do an Instagram round up of all the goodness we are experiencing this month and last month.
Today I do not feel like I want to post about fashion. Today is one of those Truth Tuesday posts. I've been reflecting quite a bit about all the change 2017 has brought. Some of it has been pretty fabulous while others have been quite stressful. With only two months to go, I can safely say that 2017 was not one of my favorite years and the word on the street is that many people feel the same. 2017 was a year of change.
And 2018...if you're listening...you better bring it!
I've saved this photo for a year. Can you believe it? One of my very talented friends who happens to shoot on the regular for my company shot it when I wasn't paying attention...on a Halloween shoot, natch.
It's always fun to look back on the last 30 days and review life as we know it. Fall is such a busy time of year. It usually leaves me breathless but in the best way. It's been so long since I've done one of these that I felt today appropriate. I've had a bit of a black cloud over my head as of late but TODAY the sun is shining and it's Friday!
Like every day, you can always come to 101 things I love to support your shopping habit. Old habits die hard. <wink, wink> I will say this though...I will always find you a good deal and I am well researched. That's a promise! I am sure my husband is gritting his teeth reading this.
I posted a blog last week on shopping. It wasn't ground breaking and I've shared this type of content many-a-time before. Once in awhile a reader will comment on a particular item they, too are fawning over. It's just fun, superfluous content. The interesting thing about this post is that it really rubbed one reader the wrong way. I mentioned it extensively on my IG stories but in case you missed it...here's what my friend, "Laney" had to say...
Hi! Happy Friday! Although somewhat risky, I thought we'd do a little exercise today! For the first time in eight years I want to open up the floor and answer all of your burning questions. I've never done this before but I thought it could be a fun way to connect as a community and I've seen so many influencers do the same. It really changed my perspective on the individual behind the brand. So...what do you think?