Girl cliques. They're a part of every girl's story. Either you were in a fierce one and served on the Queen Bee's royal court or you were cast among the civilians and not even offered a second glance. I've been there time and time again. And, I'm 37! I've seen more cliques than I care to admit...and very rarely was I ever in the "it-girl crowd". It's not a pity party I'm seeking though...I've learned a lot over the years and now I have two little girls. I can feel myself gearing up for middle school already!
There's two types of leaders in this world. There are the positive, influential and fun ones to be around OR there are the girls that act as manipulative leaders and often demean others. Clearly the latter is totally unappealing as a grown woman but what do we tell the younger generation? What advice do we give them?
I was chatting with a girlfriend last night in the car about cliques around town and yes, we were giggling a little bit but the bigger picture is that cliques really exist at any age. And, it's how you cope with them that define your character and make you the type of human being that others admire and want to be around.
With that said, here are my quick tips for surviving a girl clique:
- Kill 'em with kindness. Just because "you can't sit with them" doesn't mean you can't make their heads spin with a warm embrace and a hello. They'll be so confused!
- Reach out to the wall flowers. Often times these women have the potential to be life-long friends...they just need to be given the opportunity. Walk over and introduce yourself.
- Do not judge. You never know someone else's struggle. Reserve your opinion.
- Ask for her number. That's right...get her digits. If you see someone you like, arrange a coffee and make the effort.
- Walk away. If certain social occasions are making you feel "not worthy," walk away and find a group of more like-minded women.
No matter what - always trust your gut. If it smells like a clique, acts like a clique and talks like a clique...it's a CLIQUE. Depending on what side of the fence you're on, it can be fun for awhile and certainly have its perks. Ultimately it's a lot of work. Friendship should be easy and women should empower each other.
We shouldn't be competing with each other; we should be supporting and encouraging the many reasons that make us unique, talents and all! Happy Friday!
The hardest part of being a mom is leaving your kids. Of course, it makes the return that much sweeter. The other hardest part is when you've got 'em...what do you do with them? Yes, we are now at that age in which I often hear, "Mom, I'm bored." or "What are we gonna do today that's fun?"
Fitness is not a fad. It's a way of life. Once you adopt it into your own, whichever format suits you, it improves just about everything you pursue. Such is the case for Kathleen, owner of SPENGA North Shore. I had the pleasure of attending one of her classes last week. Grateful doesn't even begin to describe how I feel now that Glenview has landed new, fun and innovative ways to get your sweat on. Gym life, sadly, is not the life for me. I loathe gyms, on a side note.
It's not uncommon for girlfriends to joke that I am no fun when we eat out or elbow me about eating like a bird. I don't take it personally. The reality is I eat quite a bit but all day long and rarely in one sitting. I eat with intention and I'm very aware of what I am putting in my mouth. This begs the question:
Why did you go gluten free?
Hi loves! Happy Friday!
Keepin' it short and sweet with my annual survey today. I'd love to hear your feedback. This blog has changed quite a bit in the last two years and I'd like to keep you around a little bit longer. (wink, wink). Please, share your thoughts and you can remain totally anonymous if you like, too.
Hey hey...Happy Friday! The above quote pretty much sums up my week. I've been sniffling and walking around with Vitamin C tablets but I am determined to make a come back. I will not let this cold beat me. In fact, I am dying for a cocktail but I also can't taste anything. In some ways, it's been a good detox week. Funny how that works.
Apologies for the radio silence. I have been bitten by the winter flu bug and I'm still not 100%. But there is no rest for the weary...or moms...as you know. Really, that applies to all parents. But that's a different story for a different day. So! Today's post is not related to fashion but rather, remedies!
"Thank you very much Johanna. That is all."
It's been awhile since I've revisited my writing roots and today seemed like the perfect opportunity to do so. It should be noted that I don't have any resolution on the subject. Kind of an uncomfortable spot to be in but life isn't all sunshine and puppy dogs is it?
A fresh start. A clean slate. I love the promise of a new year. For me, it's equivalent to a freshly laundered bed. Jump in and cozy up because we've got 362 days left of opportunity. And while it's easy to get burnt out in marriage, work, in parenting, in friendship, in blogging...taking time off provided me perspective. With that, my first post of the year!
Do you remember 2015's learnings? Me neither! Funny how some things remain the same yet so much has changed. I feel like this list is a little cranky but I really spoke authentically. 2016 was a great year but it had its challenges. I'm actually a bit exhausted from learning so I'm using this last week to recharge my batteries...hence the blog silence. I just need a break from pictures and pressure - truthfully. On the positive front; this has been a great year for family. We have had so much fun and I feel blessed that I have them to keep me grounded. We all need that don't we?