With the holidays in full swing, it's only fitting that I chose today's topic. I can't say I've ever written about it before but I think it's time. At this stage in my life, I've been to many-an-event or holiday party...some fabulous and some completely "meh" but all contributed to a greater understanding of not only what makes a wonderful hostess but also...what makes a pleasant guest. The end goal is easy...get invited to the next fabulous soiree! Easy enough right? Not so fast, slick...here's a few things to consider:
- Consider the source. I don't care if your hostess works FT or not at all. I don't care if she is putting on the entire event or if she hired staff to do it for her. Him, too. Hosting an event is WORK! From gathering a list of invitees to outreach to decor to coordinating vendors, dishes and the like...it's a big job. For that reason alone, don't text/call/email or try to communicate with your hostess at the 11th hour (within 48 hours of said event happening) asking for directions, special favors, etc. She is BUSY! Google is an amazing tool that we all have at our fingertips.
- Need a helping hand? Even if she declines, always ask your hostess if she needs help. A dish? Set-up preparation? An extra bag of ice? Ask in advance and make yourself available. Sometimes it's just nice when people acknowledge the work you're putting in that affords them a wonderful, festive night out.
- Can I get a +1? No. No you may not have a +1. If the invitation does not indicate that you may bring a guest of any kind then I'll break it down for you: the hostess does not want randoms at her party. OR she has a budget and is keeping watch of her dollah bills, yo. Don't even go there. Instead, show up with a bottle of bubbles and a smile on your face.
- RSVP with purpose! Think before you commit. There's nothing worse than 10 people backing out of an event because they double-booked themselves or didn't think to put it on their calendar. Sickness is one thing but consider this...generally the hostess will purchase party goods and edibles at minimum within 48 hours of the event taking place. Be a dear and RSVP so she knows how much to buy and doesn't lose money in the process by last minute cancellations.
- The pleasure is all mine. Always show up with a hostess gift. It doesn't have to be stupendously expensive...just a token. A nice bottle of their favorite spirit is sufficient. Why not try a festive, floral bouquet? It's basically your ticket to ride and be awarded best guest EVAAAAAA.
- TEAMWORK. You know what the worst part of a party is? The dishes! If you can see out of both pupils, ask for a dish towel and get to work. I have to tell you that this ranks the highest on my hostess'ing wish list. When my parents or in-laws offer to help with the dishes...in all honesty, I want to lay down on the ground and start weeping because I.am.that.tired. It's the most generous gift of all. In fact, I would go so far as to say that I would rather you skip the hostess gift and just offer a helping hand at the end of the event. That, my friends, elevates you into rock star status quickly...in my books at least!
What do you think? Am I missing any "Dear Abby" tips that are a must? Do tell! I love hosting and planning for events...I'm all about the creative process! And...because sharing is caring...I thought today's subject might resonate just a teeny weeny bit or at least make you think twice.
Happy socializing! xo
I feel like life is moving at the speed of sound and with it...my blog has been sitting in the corner weeping for more frequency. I am TRYING but man, this time of year is intensely busy. I decided to do an Instagram round up of all the goodness we are experiencing this month and last month.
Today I do not feel like I want to post about fashion. Today is one of those Truth Tuesday posts. I've been reflecting quite a bit about all the change 2017 has brought. Some of it has been pretty fabulous while others have been quite stressful. With only two months to go, I can safely say that 2017 was not one of my favorite years and the word on the street is that many people feel the same. 2017 was a year of change.
And 2018...if you're listening...you better bring it!
I've saved this photo for a year. Can you believe it? One of my very talented friends who happens to shoot on the regular for my company shot it when I wasn't paying attention...on a Halloween shoot, natch.
It's always fun to look back on the last 30 days and review life as we know it. Fall is such a busy time of year. It usually leaves me breathless but in the best way. It's been so long since I've done one of these that I felt today appropriate. I've had a bit of a black cloud over my head as of late but TODAY the sun is shining and it's Friday!
Like every day, you can always come to 101 things I love to support your shopping habit. Old habits die hard. <wink, wink> I will say this though...I will always find you a good deal and I am well researched. That's a promise! I am sure my husband is gritting his teeth reading this.
I posted a blog last week on shopping. It wasn't ground breaking and I've shared this type of content many-a-time before. Once in awhile a reader will comment on a particular item they, too are fawning over. It's just fun, superfluous content. The interesting thing about this post is that it really rubbed one reader the wrong way. I mentioned it extensively on my IG stories but in case you missed it...here's what my friend, "Laney" had to say...
Hi! Happy Friday! Although somewhat risky, I thought we'd do a little exercise today! For the first time in eight years I want to open up the floor and answer all of your burning questions. I've never done this before but I thought it could be a fun way to connect as a community and I've seen so many influencers do the same. It really changed my perspective on the individual behind the brand. So...what do you think?
Sometimes I wish Lisa had permanent residency in my home. On those challenging days when nothing seems to be going right, I would take solace in the fact that Lisa would have a mean cocktail waiting for me as soon as the clock turned happy hour. This girl knows how to whip up a strong drink and not just one...but an entire collection of craft cocktails!
I just returned from another Mexican adventure. Let me start with the simple fact that Mexico is always a good idea. Always. Two back to back trips further cemented my love for this country. That said, with any travel comes tiny moments of clarity. Some are welcome and some are just a drag to face. So let's start with the good stuff...
If you want the cut and dry of why the tech community loves Katy Lynch, see answer #10. Actually, that's why I love her, too.
I met Katy a little over a year ago and I was instantly inspired by her genuine support for my agency and her bubbly demeanor.