With the holidays in full swing, it's only fitting that I chose today's topic. I can't say I've ever written about it before but I think it's time. At this stage in my life, I've been to many-an-event or holiday party...some fabulous and some completely "meh" but all contributed to a greater understanding of not only what makes a wonderful hostess but also...what makes a pleasant guest. The end goal is easy...get invited to the next fabulous soiree! Easy enough right? Not so fast, slick...here's a few things to consider:
- Consider the source. I don't care if your hostess works FT or not at all. I don't care if she is putting on the entire event or if she hired staff to do it for her. Him, too. Hosting an event is WORK! From gathering a list of invitees to outreach to decor to coordinating vendors, dishes and the like...it's a big job. For that reason alone, don't text/call/email or try to communicate with your hostess at the 11th hour (within 48 hours of said event happening) asking for directions, special favors, etc. She is BUSY! Google is an amazing tool that we all have at our fingertips.
- Need a helping hand? Even if she declines, always ask your hostess if she needs help. A dish? Set-up preparation? An extra bag of ice? Ask in advance and make yourself available. Sometimes it's just nice when people acknowledge the work you're putting in that affords them a wonderful, festive night out.
- Can I get a +1? No. No you may not have a +1. If the invitation does not indicate that you may bring a guest of any kind then I'll break it down for you: the hostess does not want randoms at her party. OR she has a budget and is keeping watch of her dollah bills, yo. Don't even go there. Instead, show up with a bottle of bubbles and a smile on your face.
- RSVP with purpose! Think before you commit. There's nothing worse than 10 people backing out of an event because they double-booked themselves or didn't think to put it on their calendar. Sickness is one thing but consider this...generally the hostess will purchase party goods and edibles at minimum within 48 hours of the event taking place. Be a dear and RSVP so she knows how much to buy and doesn't lose money in the process by last minute cancellations.
- The pleasure is all mine. Always show up with a hostess gift. It doesn't have to be stupendously expensive...just a token. A nice bottle of their favorite spirit is sufficient. Why not try a festive, floral bouquet? It's basically your ticket to ride and be awarded best guest EVAAAAAA.
- TEAMWORK. You know what the worst part of a party is? The dishes! If you can see out of both pupils, ask for a dish towel and get to work. I have to tell you that this ranks the highest on my hostess'ing wish list. When my parents or in-laws offer to help with the dishes...in all honesty, I want to lay down on the ground and start weeping because I.am.that.tired. It's the most generous gift of all. In fact, I would go so far as to say that I would rather you skip the hostess gift and just offer a helping hand at the end of the event. That, my friends, elevates you into rock star status quickly...in my books at least!
What do you think? Am I missing any "Dear Abby" tips that are a must? Do tell! I love hosting and planning for events...I'm all about the creative process! And...because sharing is caring...I thought today's subject might resonate just a teeny weeny bit or at least make you think twice.
Happy socializing! xo