What you see here is not reality. It's a moment in time captured by a very talented photographer. But that's what family pictures are, right?
I've been getting the same question pretty frequently lately. I must be giving off this vibe like I've got it all handled..and I don't. So when people comment:
"I don't know how you do it all."
My response is simple. I'm not doing it all! Not even close. The thing is, social media only shows you the pretty, styled side of life. What you don't see is an un-showered mom in her pajamas feverishly trying to push something out for work while one child is screaming for potty assistance and the other child is having a meltdown that I peeled her banana for her. That, my friends, is reality. If you want to get real down and dirty, after I/we put the kids down for bed, I typically work late five nights a week just to catch up and finish everything I need to with Oak St. Social or any blog obligations I've committed to. Save for Friday nights, it's pretty rare that I sit and watch a television show with my full attention. Most of our clients' social media posting work is done in the evenings so there's never really a day off so to speak. It's just what we've signed up to do!
For the existing and the new moms out there: don't be so hard on yourself! Ask for help. We all have help and we still look ragged. Some days are fabulous and some days are wretched. Some days you are connected to your partner and other days you want to put them in a choke hold. And anyone who says this is untrue is flat out lying!
Frankly, I don't do anything perfect. There are days where I feel like a rockstar at work but those are also the days where I'm not the best parent and vice versa. It upsets me and I think about it daily but the truth is, you just can't be everywhere at once and give 100% all the time. It's impossible and if you are...take caution because burn out is around the corner.
Currently, I am not managing my stress very well at all so this post is forcing me to think about the things that keep my sane. It's good to revisit those things which is why I am sharing them with you. And for those who ask that magical question...here is how I get by:
- "Me Time" - it's hard to come by but sometimes 30 minutes of scrolling through Instagram and staring at pretty pictures helps me re-center myself. (those damn phones)
- Text or call a girlfriend for a good laugh. They can always relate.
- On the same note and even better...meet them for a meal or a drink. Time outside of those four walls works wonders.
- OR...plan a date night with your spouse. Maybe it's time to reconnect.
- Work out. If I don't work out I am a Crabby Patty.
- Walk away from the computer!
- Indulge - chocolate, wine...whatever it is...allow yourself to have it.
- Go to sleep early. Sleep is everything.
- Treat yo self - buy that pair of shoes, that Starbucks Venti or that manicure. You've earned it.
- Walk outside and just sit. No electronics. Just a zap of fresh air while you get your bearings will prevent you from screaming at the top of your lungs.
Did it work? It's a start right? Happy Friday! Share what you do to relieve stress...we all need assistance in this arena! xo
Photography by Hallie Duesenberg
Today I do not feel like I want to post about fashion. Today is one of those Truth Tuesday posts. I've been reflecting quite a bit about all the change 2017 has brought. Some of it has been pretty fabulous while others have been quite stressful. With only two months to go, I can safely say that 2017 was not one of my favorite years and the word on the street is that many people feel the same. 2017 was a year of change.
And 2018...if you're listening...you better bring it!
I've saved this photo for a year. Can you believe it? One of my very talented friends who happens to shoot on the regular for my company shot it when I wasn't paying attention...on a Halloween shoot, natch.
It's always fun to look back on the last 30 days and review life as we know it. Fall is such a busy time of year. It usually leaves me breathless but in the best way. It's been so long since I've done one of these that I felt today appropriate. I've had a bit of a black cloud over my head as of late but TODAY the sun is shining and it's Friday!
Like every day, you can always come to 101 things I love to support your shopping habit. Old habits die hard. <wink, wink> I will say this though...I will always find you a good deal and I am well researched. That's a promise! I am sure my husband is gritting his teeth reading this.
I posted a blog last week on shopping. It wasn't ground breaking and I've shared this type of content many-a-time before. Once in awhile a reader will comment on a particular item they, too are fawning over. It's just fun, superfluous content. The interesting thing about this post is that it really rubbed one reader the wrong way. I mentioned it extensively on my IG stories but in case you missed it...here's what my friend, "Laney" had to say...
Hi! Happy Friday! Although somewhat risky, I thought we'd do a little exercise today! For the first time in eight years I want to open up the floor and answer all of your burning questions. I've never done this before but I thought it could be a fun way to connect as a community and I've seen so many influencers do the same. It really changed my perspective on the individual behind the brand. So...what do you think?
Sometimes I wish Lisa had permanent residency in my home. On those challenging days when nothing seems to be going right, I would take solace in the fact that Lisa would have a mean cocktail waiting for me as soon as the clock turned happy hour. This girl knows how to whip up a strong drink and not just one...but an entire collection of craft cocktails!
I just returned from another Mexican adventure. Let me start with the simple fact that Mexico is always a good idea. Always. Two back to back trips further cemented my love for this country. That said, with any travel comes tiny moments of clarity. Some are welcome and some are just a drag to face. So let's start with the good stuff...
If you want the cut and dry of why the tech community loves Katy Lynch, see answer #10. Actually, that's why I love her, too.
I met Katy a little over a year ago and I was instantly inspired by her genuine support for my agency and her bubbly demeanor.
Everyday was a surprise in Guadalajara. And I mean that in every sense of the word. We'd wake up to beautiful breakfasts and come home to thoughtful gifts. It was unreal. Day 2 was just what the doctor ordered. Our itinerary included breakfast at Café Barra Café followed by a short trek to the landmark spa and boutique hotel, Hacienda El Carmen.